4 Words Stopping You From Attracting Love

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- Does every single one of your relationships end in a fiery blaze of hell where you not only hate each other but you wish for each other to be cursed to remain single for the end of time? If that's the case, then you might be tempted to start telling yourself that you just suck at relationships. And I am here to basically stop you in your tracks and rethink this mindset because it might just be the very thing that is sabotaging all of your relationships. Keep watching. (dramatic music) Hey there, Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com where I help you create your love story. In this video, I'm gonna talk about three reasons why you need to stop saying that you suck at relationships. Number one is you tend to actually believe yourself. Tony Robbins famously popularized the term neurolinguistic programming. And basically what this means is that the words that we say out loud or the words that we tell ourselves we actually start to internalize. And if you start telling yourself that you suck at relationships, then you actually start believing yourself and you stop believing in growth. I mean have you ever met someone who just when you talk to them they constantly talk about every miserable thing going on in their life? Their cat just got cancer, they have constant headaches, they're never gonna be able to travel because they don't have the money. And worse, they're complaining to you why they don't seem to have that many friends anymore and they never get invited to parties anymore. And they actually wonder why. All of this is a self-fulfilling prophecy. So no more do you suck at relationships. It's that you need to work on this area of your life and you need to improve at relationships. Reason number two is that you will always attract in life what you think you deserve. If you think you suck at relationships, what do you think you're going to attract into your life? A really bad relationship. And maybe you think this way because of your parents or the way that you were brought up because so much of what we've learned about relationships, really comes from our parents and our family upbringing. And maybe your parents are divorced or maybe they've struggled. Maybe they've remarried three, four times and you think that you are fated to do the same. But I'm here to tell you it is not true. So long as you open your mind and your heart up to growing and trying to improve yourself in relationships, then you will be able to find a great relationship. Just keep working at it. Finally, number three is that you blame everything on yourself. Look, sometimes relationships just don't work out. And for some people who are spectacularly unlucky at love, sometimes you're just gonna have to kiss some toads before you meet your prince. So stop blaming yourself for every single thing that's wrong. Should you be aware of the things you can improve on? Absolutely. But at the same time, just realize that dating is truly a numbers game. Finding love and putting yourself out there is just a matter of getting yourself out there, exploring what it is that you really want and adjusting every single step of the way. So stop being so hard on yourself, stop telling yourself that you suck at relationships. I'm here to help you through every single stage of dating, relationships and finding love. And just remember that finding love is a verb. Love is a verb, it's not a noun. It's not some stagnant thing that you just suddenly find and you keep. It's a verb. It's something that you need to continuously work on and put energy into in order to have it grow. And if you'd like more resources to help you through every single stage of dating, relationships and finding love, head on over to sexyconfidence.com where I will help you through all of this. Thank you so much for watching and I'll speak to you next week. Bye bye.

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