3 Reasons to Dump Your Toxic Friends

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- Now before the day and age of Facebook, we were pretty much limited to the friends that we had in our vicinity. And in fact, anthropologist Robin Dunbar studied primate social groups and basically discovered that we can only maintain about 150 significant relationships at a time. And guess what. The average number of friends on Facebook is 350. I believe strongly that it's important to be really mindful of the relationships that you have in your life because we are so insanely influenced by those we surround ourselves with. I mean, think about it. Would you want your child going down to the bridge and hanging out with people who are smoking crack every single night. Hell no! Because you know that if your child surrounds themselves with those types of people, what are they gonna end up doing? Smoking crack. An extreme example, but very true. And I believe that so many people out there have these toxic friends, these toxic relationships that are influencing them in ways that they don't even know. So in this video, I'm gonna be talking about why it is that you should break up with some of your friends, keep watching. Hey there, Adam Lodolce from SexyConfidence.com, where I help you create your love story and this video is all about breaking up with some of your friends. Now I personally have broken up with at least, I would say 10 friends over the last three years. And you know what? I feel pretty damn good about it. And this isn't because I'm a bad friend or I don't care about people. It's actually quite the opposite. I actually wanna invest more of my time and energy into the friendships that really matter to me, and less of my time on the relationships that are, quite frankly, a little bit toxic. As Jim Rohn says, "You're the average "of the five people you spend the most time with." And I believe in this very, very strongly. And so I found that by simply just removing some people from your life, you can invest so much more time and energy into the relationships that are going to not only matter to you but also help you improve in your own life. And relationships just end for a lot of different reasons. I mean, sometimes people grow in different directions. Sometimes people are just takers. They just wanna take everything from you. Some people are just freakin' haters. And then there are some people, and you might know this, who just suck the living life out of you. So here are three reasons why you should dump some of those friends. Number one, as I mentioned, you are highly influenced by them. If they are toxic and you spend a lot of time with them, you are going to become more toxic as well. Even subtle toxicity can really rub off on you because we look at other people's behaviors and if we see enough of those behaviors, it becomes normalized. For example, if you're hanging out with your friends and you notice one of your friends that you hang out with a lot, lies to get themselves out of any potential situation that doesn't suit them. You are going to then see that behavior and model it moving forward. Reason number two is that you only have so much time to spend with friends and family, so be intentional with that time. I personally only have a few core friends at this point in my life and I, quite frankly, have really enjoyed that. As we get older and life just happens and we have careers that we need to worry about we have children, we have relationships, then you only have time to spend with so many people. So be smart about the people that you actually want to spend time with, rather than wasting away with people who aren't adding to your life and who aren't giving you that positive energy that you need to succeed in life. Finally, reason number three to break up with some of your friends is that people just change and that's perfectly okay. I've seen this with a lot of my coaching clients in the past where they kind of cling to the past. They cling to past relationships as if it's this thing that never changes, but the reality is that with all relationships in life, whether it's romantic, platonic, even professional, relationships are either growing or they're dying. And that's normal, that's perfectly okay. So don't cling onto this relationship as if it's this thing that never changes. If it's not serving you, then it's okay. You can move on from that relationship or that friendship. And more importantly, do you have a friend that you wanna invest more of your time and energy into? Go ahead and tag that person below this video and show 'em a little bit of love. And if you enjoyed this video, head on over to SexyConfidence.com, where I have a ton of resources that will help you through every single stage of dating, relationships, and love. Thank you so much for watching, I'll speak to you, you sexy single lady, next week, bye-bye.

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