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- Now, regardless of whether you're single or in a relationship, right now is one of the best times for love. Let's start with being in a relationship. It's my prediction that in about nine months, there's going to be a massive boom of babies being born because right now everyone is at home with nothing else to do but get a little freaky, and if you're single right now, it's going to be a very different experience. I mean, this could, quite frankly, be one of the loneliest and most difficult times of your life where you're not able to connect with anyone physically and you feel almost helpless, but I am here to make a very important argument and that is that right now might be, during this pandemic, this might be one of the best times to actually find love. Keep watching. (upbeat music) Hey there, Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com where I help you find love and do it with sexy confidence, and if you're tired of this pandemic right now and you're finally ready to attract the love of your life, give me a little bit of love, show me you're out there. Give this video a like, it really helps me out a lot. Now, this pandemic has been not only one of the biggest economic and financial disasters in modern human history, but it's also been one of the biggest emotional disasters in modern human history because we suddenly cannot just go out and connect with the people we love the most, but there really is a silver lining to all of this because I feel like this pandemic is allowing us to have true gratitude for our lives, for the things that we don't have right now, right? I'm showing more gratitude for even my Starbucks down the street and I miss it right now, but I know that when I finally get to talk in that store again and get my mocha latte, I am going to have gratitude for the that or the next restaurant I go to, I am going to really appreciate the experience, and I think that is something we can all take from this and it's just having a little bit more gratitude for the things that we really have in our life, and the message that I really want to share with all of you right now who are feeling single and lonely and disconnected is that there's hope. I mean, this can be an incredible time in your life to really focus in on the things that really have kind of gone to the wayside. So let's jump in on three reasons why I believe that right now is one of the best times to focus in on your love life. Number one is that you have the time to actually prioritize your love life. We have a lot of women in this community who just have a lot going on in their life, whether they're single moms or they're executives in the workplace, and a lot of times what I've found is that their love life tends to go on the lowest end of the priorities list and that's because when you have an emergency at the workplace or you have an emergency, certainly, with your kids or your family, all of your energy is going to go there, whereas when you're single and dating, usually there aren't that many emergencies, right? You're not having to put everything down and go take care of this. So it tends to go on the lowest level of your priorities list, however, now that other things are kind of put to the wayside at the moment, you can really start putting that real priority into your love life. As one of my mentors Tony Robbins says, where focus goes, energy flows, and the power of focus is very, very real, and once you finally commit yourself to focusing in on this area of your life, suddenly you're going to get a lot of results in this area of your life. From a personal standpoint, back when I was in my early 20s and really struggling with confidence and certainly with women, I had to put everything aside. I mean, I started getting to a point where I was only working maybe 30, 35 hours a week and I was putting all of my energy into just self-improvement. Taking courses, reading, going out, meeting new people, going to meet up groups and going to singles events and everything I could to just improve on this area of my life, and of course it wasn't surprising that the more energy and focus that I put in that area of my life, the more it improved. The second reason why this is an incredible time to find love is that you can build more emotional attraction with a person before it gets physical. Now here's the thing, emotional attraction is very different than physical attraction. Emotional attraction is all about that emotional connection you build with that person, whether it's that friendship or it's that respect or it's just that common bond that you build with that person, whereas the physical attraction side is something that tends to come very, very naturally where you have that just overwhelming feeling that you just want to be with that person on a physical level. Now, one way to look at social distancing right now is that because you can't have that physical chemistry that goes right into the bedroom where you get physical very quickly, you're forced now to build that emotional connection, to really get to know that person on a real level. Whether it's through FaceTime or Zoom or even phone calls, you're able to actually build that connection before just jumping right into the bedroom, and because of social distancing, it creates that natural barrier. It forces you to move slower, and the slower you move in these relationships, the better decisions you're going to make along the way, and the third reason why this is a great time to find love is that a lot of people right now are searching for love because they're feeling lonely. There are 1,000,000s of men out there right now who are coming to the same conclusion, and that is that this whole single thing, it's not really working out very well for me, and people, both men and women, are coming to the conclusion that like, look, maybe it's time to have that partner so that if I'm ever in this situation again, I can really not feel alone. I can not go through this pain again, and it's really motivating people to finally get online, to start connecting and start putting that effort into this area of their life, and I really want to create this video just so I can create a little bit of positivity with all this negative (beep) going on in all of our lives and just remind you that you're gonna be okay. You're gonna be okay. We're all gonna get through this together, and right now is really one of the best times to work on this area of your life. So if you are committed and ready to find love, for starters, I want you to leave a comment right below this video just saying, I'm ready. So if you're new to the SexyConfidence community, just know that I have literally 100s of videos available to everyone for free on YouTube or on my Instagram account at SexyConfidence so I would definitely start there if you're new to the community. If you've been around for a while and you really want to be apart of a deeper community, then I definitely recommend to check out the Sexy Confidence Club. That's where I have a ton of courses that answer questions about every part of dating, whether you're going through heartbreak or you want to just build confidence or if you're in a relationship, I have courses that will help you through each stage of that, and on top of that, we have one of the most advanced communities, if not the most advanced community, in the world where you can connect with other like-minded single women who are going through the same journey as you, and that is really where the magic happens. I mean, women every single day by the hour are posting in there right now supporting one another, answering each other's questions. I'm in there constantly responding to people as well. So I definitely recommend giving that a shot. If you are interested in that, I'll leave a link in the bio or you can go to sexyconfidence.com/club. Thank you so much for listening and I will speak to you, you sexy, single lady, next week, buh-bye.