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- When is the right time to move in with someone? Recently, I asked the broader Love Strategies community, what questions do you have for me and I would answer them in a video and I very quickly got these two related questions. Marcel's question is about moving in together. My boyfriend is 44 and I'm 38 and long story short she's a little bit apprehensive and not sure what she should do. And then Heather Frazier says, any suggestions for when planning to move in together. I fell in love in the time of pandemic. This is a really good question and it can be really challenging to figure out when is the right time to move in together. Keep watching. (upbeat music) Hey there, I'm LoDolce from lovestrategies.com where I help successful single women get out there and attract long lasting love and do it with a proven strategy. And if you want more videos just like this where I answer your questions about love and dating, please leave a comment right there below and we'll choose a few of them for future videos. And don't forget to give this video a like for just a little bit of good luck in your love life. Hey, whatever I got to do to get you to like this video, I'll say it. Anyways, back to the topic at hand. There are really three main criteria that I'd want you to think about and have completed before you ever consider moving in with someone. For starters, you must be in what we call little love step number seven. It means you are in a loving committed relationship where you both told each other you love each other. The second criteria is that you have been in little love step number seven for over a year. The reason why is that it really takes a year of being in a relationship for you to really understand the deepest part of who that person is that you're dating. After about a year. That's where you start to really see the person that you're in a relationship with. The good, the bad, the ugly, the awkward, the real side of who they are. And I don't want you to move in with someone until you've really gotten a good picture of who that person is. And then finally do not move in with someone unless you are pretty confident that you would want to marry this person and spend the rest of your life with this person. Think of moving in together as kind of like a final test to see whether or not you're really compatible. It should really be kind of your last check mark on your list of whether or not you should marry a person. Trust me, once you move in with someone it's really hard to move out with someone and this is true regardless of whether you're 45, 25, or 75. So long story short, don't do it unless you are very sure that you love this person and you are very confident that you're gonna marry this person. The last thing I want you to do is move in with someone and then feel like you are part invested that you can't get out of it, especially when things change. But I wanna leave this on a high note. One of the best decisions of my life was moving in with Jessica. She was the first person I'd ever lived with. I lived a pretty serious bachelor lifestyle up until that point. And when she moved in, I was nervous about it. But when she came in, I very quickly realized that this was gonna work. So as long as you fit those three criteria go ahead, make it happen. Good luck and I'm excited for both of you. And I wanna hear from you in the comments below and I'll leave this open to you, do you agree with this advice? Yes or no. And finally, if you are ready to get out there and attract long lasting love, make sure you head on over to lovestrategies.com where we have a ton of other resources that will help you through every single stage of finding men to attracting long lasting love. Thank you for watching. I'll speak to you, you sexy single lady next week. Bye-bye.