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- Have you ever been serious about a guy but wasn't really sure if he was serious about you and your relationship? If so, then you are absolutely not alone. This is one of the most requested videos that I get from you sexy, single ladies, which is, how to know if a guy is actually serious about you and a relationship, keep watching. (soft music) What's up all you sexy, single ladies? Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com where I help you create your love story and I'm here to break some very, very bad (beep) news for you, most relationships don't last very long. According to a recent study, 60% of couples who are together for less than two months, we're still together a year from now. So basically, the new guy that you're dating, if it's within the first two months of dating him, it's likely not going to work out. Then, of course, once you make it to that first year, the chances of that relationship lasting for a longer time goes up significantly. So let me jump into those five signs that a guy is serious about a future with you, so that you can invest your time and energy into the right places. Sign number one is that he is authentically very curious about you and who you are. So if you're in a new relationship with a guy and you're out with him, I want you to really get a feel for whether or not he is authentically listening to you and he's asking questions and he's really curious about your personality, your background, your desires, your values, your future, all of these things, versus is he just asking you questions to get laid or, of course, maybe there, somewhere in between. I will say this, back in my 20s when I was not interested in a serious relationship, when I would go out with women, I wasn't really diving deep. I would try to keep it at surface level as possible because I really didn't wanna give off this impression that I wanted something more. Sign number two is that he wants to spend quality time together. Look, if every time you meet up with this guy, it is at the night club or it's at some bar at 12 P.M. Because he just finished drinking with all his buddies and was trying to meet other women, that is not quality time. On the other hand, if he is inviting you to a park or spending time with you during the day or even just taking you out to a nice dinner with no strings attached and he's not just always trying to get you back to his place, then I would consider that to be quality time spent together, this stuff really matters. Sign number three is that he asks your opinion about things going on in his life. Once you're in a healthy relationship, really, your partner should become, ultimately, your most trusted advisor and as a guy gets more serious with a woman, he's going to come to you with the (beep) that's going on in his life and he's going to ask your thoughts on how he should deal with it. By the way, the same thing goes for you, if you're in a new relationship, or of course, a long-term relationship, you should also be going to him with questions and asking his opinion on how you should deal with things in your life, this is why a great relationship makes you a better person. Sign number four is that he's honest and willing to have very difficult conversations with you. When people lie in a relationship, whether they know it or not, that is really a short term focus because you can't continuously lie in a relationship and expect it to work out in the long-term. However, if you're with a guy who is more mature and he is focused on the future and really building a life with someone, he will have a real, honest, open dialog with you, if he (beep) up or does somethin' that you don't want him to do and he does it anyways, and he realizes he makes the mistake, he'll have an honest dialog with you because he's willing to take that short term hit, that short term feedback and that pain and that fight, in order to be with you in the long-term. Relationships are really difficult, especially when there's conflict and the best thing you can be looking for is a guy who can just be straight with you. And finally, sign number five, is that you're both slowly combining your lives together. As a relationship becomes more serious, you kinda go from having these two very separate, distinct lives, social lives where you're living, where you spend your time, what did you like to do for fun but as the relationship gets more serious, your lives really do combine. So there you have it there, the five signs and I wanna ask you, have you ever been in a long-term relationship with a guy who didn't display any of these signs. How did it go? Leave a comment right there below and also, if you enjoyed this video, please give it a like, also subscribe or follow if you're watching this on Instagram and finally, if you are ready to get out there and meet the guy that you truly deserve, head on over to sexyconfidence.com, where we have a ton of resources that will help you through every single stage of dating, from finding love, to keeping love, to overcoming heartbreak, to even building an attractive lifestyle. Thank you so much for watching. I'll speak to you, you sexy, single lady, next week, bye bye. (upbeat dance music)